The separation of instrumental and expressive dimensions of life and patriarchy.
The current patriarchal system is founded on separation between work and connection, between the home and family and the wider world and this was because it was made so women could be given access to certain zones of life and others could only be accessed through men and all were dependent on male approval in some way.
Traditionally the instrumental zone was only occupied by men, but this did not mean women never did any instrumental tasks. Women have always done instrumental tasks as part of their service script whenever they had to fill in for men, during the world wars women did many of the tasks allocated to men. Women who filled metal work factories also were doing instrumental tasks, but for much lower pay. Men as a class are allocated an instrumental role, and what makes it an instrumental role as opposed to a cluster of instrumental traits and tasks that an individual orientates towards is patriarchal power, cultural permission to run things. When women do instrumental tasks, they still dont have cultural permission to run things, and people cringe at them even having permission to run things for that task. Men as a class dont just have cultural permission to run the instrumental role, they also have cultural permission to run the expressive role allocated to women. They dont just demand women nurture and preen, but they tell them who to nurture and when to preen and how and they force women to clean up the mess men make in the everyday running of the patriarchy. Women are to birth the armies patriarchy kills in wars, they are to look after casualties of male violence and serve in the expressive role doing all the childcare while men run the show in a way that disadvantages women.
Traditionally the expressive zone is allocated to women, but women as a class dont get to nurture from their own core, they are to nurture the ideas of men and children in the shape of patriarchy. Women are to decorate their body, any big works of art out in the world is still reserved for men. So its not that women are to be expressive, its that they are to follow an expressive role and be visually and emotionally available to men. The world of communication and social networking is part of the expressive role, but women are told what to say so really the communication role of women is like a news reader, she must read the patriarchal news or be taken off air. Traditionally women answered the phone and took appointments mostly for men, they also tidied and filed away mens work. The expressive role under patriarchy is a service role, not another pole of a gender binary that has its own self generated way of functioning.
Looking at this its easy to see the expressive dimension is trodden on, and queer theorists refer to this as oppression of femininity as if femininity is some thing that exists in its own right. In reality it doesn’t but the thing they are describing is a reality, an aspect of life is being trodden down and its the connected, emotional aspect of life. This is a result of the unnatural separation of human personality traits into two roles and social spheres. To achieve it you have to create a division in self, otherwise people start questioning their actions, for sex roles to work people have to respond to every situation in life from a sexed perspective rather then a situational perspective because if people start looking at their actions and the situation rather their actions as a man or woman, participation in a system based on the abuse of others would not be as likely.
If you code instrumental traits and tasks as masculine, and expressive traits and tasks as feminine then you create a zone for each sex that keeps them in role and they dont question it. You can then add things to the mix, and people do them because their are part of their role. They dont stop to think about cause and effect, what are they instrumenting and what are they expressing or if their are wasting these potentials. Women dont stop to look at what they are nurturing and men dont stop to ask what they are running. Things start to make sense that dont make sense outside of gender and things become opposed to each other that naturally fit together. When you have shaped the instrumental potential of the human race in the direction of a corrupt system and forced its expressive potential to service it, but have hidden it as masculine and feminine you get the following none sense.
“Women today are becoming more masculine, they dont want to be women anymore”
“yes, femininity is so devalued today, people think the solution is to become more masculine”
“Ok, lets get both sexes to be more feminine, and stop masculinity ruling the world”
The above is queer theory approach, now my approach.
“Women today are becoming more instrumental, they dont want to be women anymore.”
“Why does becoming more instrumental mean women no longer want to be women?”
“Because they just seem to want to do the roles men do”
“and whats wrong with the roles men do?”
See the patriarchy is exposed now in a few sentences, it becomes easy to see that the thing wrong is not women becoming more instrumental, its whats being done instrumentally and thats patriarchy. If the overall system is maintained, switching the roles a little is a compromise, and we call this equality.
The patriarchy must separate thinking and feeling as much as possible, because it must separate action and empathy as systematizing and empathizing are results of instrumental and expressive traits. Reducing the emotions of men and controlling those of women is part of this, acting from feeling has to be the biggest crime for anyone allocated the instrumental roles or given any power or they may use it to free the oppressed and not further the system. Power is social permission to run things, and to run things you need to be instrumental, but you cant instrument things from emotion you must do it from the script. There is a big problem because women are given a script telling them what to empathize with, so even if they do instrument from feeling they will still instrument from the system.
For patriarchy to work they must get people to both systematize and empathize with it without stopping and thinking, and to do this they need gender. Thats because when you take instrumental actions its natural to run them through empathizing channels and look at if you are putting your mind and intellect into making something you want to know its productive. So they need to control your definition of productive. If your taking expressive actions, its natural to run these through instrumental channels and look at the effect, because if your empathizing you want it to be productive and beneficial as thats the point, so they need to change the definition you have of productive. Gender is how they change all the definitions, that way they can get people to use their systematizing ability to build weapons, harm others and they can get people to give away their empathy to the oppressive system and care about the oppressor not the victim.
In a sense masculinity and femininity are bad software that makes us all malfunction, and this malfunction is measured at the norm.